When Anxious Meets Avoidant: The Relationship Pattern We Don’t Talk About
I recently spoke to a creative group about burnout, but their questions led us somewhere deeper into relationships, attachment and shadow work. In this short solo episode, I break down one of the most common dynamics I see as a therapist, the pairing of a preoccupied anxious attachment with a dismissive avoidant attachment.
I talk about how childhood conditioning shapes these patterns, how they show up in marriage and at work, and why both people often end up feeling unseen or overwhelmed.
If you have ever wondered why your relationship feels imbalanced or why you keep repeating certain reactions, this quick teaching will help you understand the deeper story underneath.
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